Our Mission
GetExBack.org exists to provide clear, evidence-based guidance for people navigating the painful and confusing experience of a breakup. We believe that everyone dealing with the end of a relationship deserves access to information that is grounded in research rather than manipulation tactics, unverified advice, or content designed primarily to sell products.
Our guiding principles are:
- Evidence first. Every recommendation we make is supported by peer-reviewed research. When evidence is limited or conflicting, we say so explicitly. We cite our sources throughout every article, and a complete bibliography is available on our sources page.
- Ethical approach. We do not teach manipulation tactics. We provide honest, psychologically-informed guidance that respects both the reader and their ex-partner. When reconciliation is not advisable, we say so — see our article on when to let go.
- Expert review. All content is reviewed by licensed mental health professionals with clinical experience in relationship counseling and reconciliation.
- Accessibility. We translate academic research into practical, actionable advice that anyone can understand and apply.
Our Expert Reviewers
Dr. Sarah Mitchell, LMFT
Dr. Mitchell is a licensed marriage and family therapist with over 15 years of clinical experience specializing in relationship distress, breakup recovery, and couples reconciliation. She holds a doctorate in clinical psychology and has published research on attachment patterns in on-again/off-again relationships. Dr. Mitchell reviews all pillar content on GetExBack.org to ensure clinical accuracy and therapeutic appropriateness.
Dr. James Larson, Ph.D.
Dr. Larson is a research psychologist specializing in interpersonal relationships and emotional regulation. His academic work focuses on post-breakup coping strategies and the neuropsychology of romantic attachment. Dr. Larson reviews our articles for research accuracy and ensures that our interpretation of published studies is faithful to the original findings.
Rachel Nguyen, LPC
Rachel Nguyen is a licensed professional counselor who works primarily with individuals navigating relationship transitions, including breakups, divorce, and reconciliation. With over 10 years of clinical experience, Rachel brings a practical, client-centered perspective to our content review process, ensuring that our advice is not only scientifically sound but also therapeutically appropriate and compassionate.
Our Methodology
Research Standards
We draw on published, peer-reviewed research from established journals in psychology, family studies, and relationship science. Our primary sources include:
- Journal of Social and Personal Relationships
- Journal of Personality and Social Psychology
- Personal Relationships
- Journal of Family Psychology
- Attachment & Human Development
When we cite a study, we reference the original authors and publication year to allow readers to locate the research themselves. A comprehensive bibliography is maintained on our sources page.
Editorial Process
- Research review. Content begins with a thorough review of available research on the topic.
- Drafting. Articles are drafted with clear citations and an emphasis on translating academic findings into practical guidance.
- Expert review. All content is reviewed by at least one licensed mental health professional for clinical accuracy and therapeutic appropriateness.
- Fact-checking. Citations, statistics, and claims are verified against the original source material.
- Regular updates. Content is reviewed and updated periodically to reflect new research findings.
What We Are Not
It is important to be transparent about what GetExBack.org is not:
- We are not a substitute for therapy. While our content is informed by therapeutic principles, reading articles is not the same as working with a trained professional. We strongly encourage anyone dealing with significant emotional distress to seek individual or couples therapy.
- We are not a crisis service. If you are experiencing a mental health crisis, suicidal thoughts, or are in an abusive situation, please contact a crisis service immediately.
- We do not guarantee outcomes. Every situation is unique, and no strategy works 100% of the time. Our goal is to help you make informed decisions, not to promise specific results.
For our complete legal disclaimer, see our disclaimer page.
Finding Professional Help
We consistently recommend professional therapy throughout our guides, and we want to make it as easy as possible for you to access it. Here are general guidelines for finding a therapist:
- For individual therapy: Look for a licensed therapist (LMFT, LPC, LCSW, or psychologist) with experience in relationship issues and breakup recovery. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) and emotionally-focused therapy (EFT) are both well-supported approaches.
- For couples therapy: Look for a therapist trained specifically in couples work. Emotionally Focused Therapy (Johnson, 2008) has the strongest evidence base for couples in distress, with published success rates of 70-75%.
- For cost-effective options: Many therapists offer sliding-scale fees. Online therapy platforms have expanded access significantly. Community mental health centers often provide affordable services. Some universities with graduate programs offer low-cost therapy with supervised trainees.
Start Reading
If you are ready to begin your reconciliation journey with evidence-based guidance, start with our complete guide to getting your ex back. If you are not sure whether reconciliation is the right goal, our article on when to let go can help you evaluate your situation honestly.